|Even Philadelphia, with all the hustle |
and bustle, can be beautiful in winter. (2010)
So, instead of making resolutions this year, I decided to write phrases of action and redefine goal setting. Getting goals on paper is easy, but I'm more motivated by doing. The generally accepted SMART acronym is restrictive, though sometimes necessarily so. But for my purposes, SMART will stand for simple, meaningful, ambitious, reflective and thoughtful. Hopefully, these phrases of action will be ways for me to make 2012 an amazing year.
Remember what's important. My grandmother, who was an incredible fixture in my life, passed away this fall. After talking more to my mother about who Grandma was and what she valued, it became obvious that one of the traits we both admired about her was the fact that she loved unconditionally. Truly unconditionally. She didn't judge, she didn't hold grudges and she cherished the people around her. My mother is the perfect confidant, my role model, and beautiful soul. Along with Grandma, she taught me a very important lesson this fall: don't just love unconditionally; don't leave space in your life for anger or resentment. It's exhausting, and those bad feelings take up space that could be better filled with other feelings. This phrase of action will remind me to let go of bad feelings, and to make more room for good ones.
|I'm terrified in this photo. I need to terrify myself|
more often. (D. Herscovitch)
Stay in touch. One of my good friends here in Philadelphia calls me "an introvert with extrovert tendencies." When she came up with that description of me, I was floored. It's perfect. Being an introvert doesn't mean I cower in a corner, hate people, prefer not to talk and would rather be alone. It means I adore engaging with people, adore social experiences, and love deep conversations about ideas and opinions. It means I'm more serious than silly, but can be one of the silliest people I know. What it also means is that I very much value my alone time, my quiet "Katie time," and need that time to recharge my batteries. Sometimes, that need results in my not doing a great job of reaching out to special people I don't reach out to enough. In 2012, I'll take care of my introverted self while also being sure that care doesn't keep me from quality time with the people I love.
|In the crater on Mount Rainier with some of |
the most amazing women I know. (T. Royal)
Stay inspired. This one goes hand in hand with the previous phrase of action. To me, being inspired means having a zest for life as a result of things you see, activities you participate in, even living vicariously through others doing amazing things. We all have people in our lives who inspire us. For example, by paying more attention to the world around me, I'll see things I might not have noticed. But I also know I can count on photographer friends like Patrick Gensel and Peter West Carey to capture beautiful moments I can look at and be inspired by. I love playing outside, but also love hearing about friends from the climbing gym making progress, or friends trying ice climbing for the first time. One of my new Crossfit Love friends isn't just a hard worker in the gym, she's also an amazing artist and paleo dessert baker extraordinaire. I know some incredibly talented people. This phrase of action will remind me that, even on the occasional bad day, there are so many places for me to draw inspiration from.
Do you have New Years resolutions, or your own phrases of action? I'd love to hear them, and would love help continuing to define my own.